Think about love…

When you think of your past love, you may view it as a failure.  But when you find a new love, you view the past as a teacher.  In the game of love, it doesn’t really matter who won or who lost.  What is important is that you know when to hold on and when to let go!  You know you really love someone when you want him or her to be happy, even if their happiness means that you’re not part of it.  Everything happens for the best.  If the person you love doesn’t love you back, don’t be afraid to love someone else again, for you’ll never know unless you give it a try.  You’ll never love a person you love unless you risk for love.  Love strives in hurting.  If you don’t get hurt, you don’t learn how to love.  Love doesn’t hurt all the time.  Though the hurting is still there to test you, to help you grow.  Don’t find love, let love find you.  That’s why it’s called falling in love because you don’t force yourself to fall.  You just fall.  You cannot finish a book without closing its chapters.  If you want to go on, then you have to leave the past as you turn the pages.  Love is not destroyed by a single failure or won by a single caress.  It is a lifetime venture in which we are always learning, discovering, and growing.  The greatest irony of love is letting go when you need to hold on and and holding on when you need to let go.  We lose someone we love only when we are destined to find someone else who can love us ever more than we can love ourselves.  On falling out of love, take some time to heal and then get back on the horse.  But don’t ever make the same mistake of riding the same one that threw you the first time.  To love is to risk rejection, to live is to risk dying, to hope is to risk failure.  But risk must be taken because the greatest hazard in life is to risk nothing!  To reach for another is to risk involvement, to expose your feelings is to expose true self, to love is to risk not to be loved in return.  How to define love: fall but do not stumble, be constant but not too persistent, share and never be unfair, understand and try not to demand, hurt but never keep the pain.  Love is like a knife.  It can stab the heart or it can carve wonderful images into the soul that always last last for a lifetime.  Love is supposed to be the most wonderful feeling.  It should inspire you and give you joy and strength.  But sometimes the things that give you joy can also hurt you in the end.  Loving people means giving them the freedom who they choose to be and where they choose to be.  For all the heartaches and the tears, for gloomy days and fruitless years, you should give thanks, for you know, that they were the things that helped you grow.  Loving someone means giving them their freedom so they can find their way, whether it leads towards you or away from you.  Love is a painful risk to take but the risk must be taken no matter how scary or painful, for then you’ll experience the fullness of humanity and that is love.  Only love can hurt your heart, fill you with desire and tear you apart.  Only love can make you cry and only love knows why.  If you’re not ready to cry, if you’re not ready to take the risk, if you’re not ready to feel the pain, then you’re not ready to fall in love.  There was a time in our lives when we became afraid to fall in love ‘cuz every time we do, we get hurt, then I figured that’s why it’s called falling in love.   

Love means a lot of things, depending on your perspective.  It was hard for me to find love again after my ex trashed me.  But I found a new love, one that went beyond my expectations of what a boyfriend should be like.  I have a lot to thank for, especially for what my boyfriend Ryan has provided for me – not in the material sense, but the fact that he’s always been there for me and he’s someone I can always talk to…it’s not everyday that I can share all my problems with just someone I know.  At first, it was hard to for me to understand that guys like Ryan existed; sometimes I wonder if there are still any at all.  But to think that I’ve been with Ryan for over 2 years makes me extremely grateful for what I’ve been able to hold so close to my heart – a real friend (and my best friend, too), and the love of my life. 


~ by twilightmelfina on September 18, 2005.

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